Forgiveness is freedom. Freedom from the past and freedom from the future.
The act of forgiveness is an internal process of learning to let go, beginning to set ourselves free, and is often achieved when we realize or decide that peace of mind is more important than always being correct, right, or perfect.
Remember that forgiveness isn’t about ignoring wrongdoings; it’s about choosing to release yourself from the grips of indignation and negativity.
It’s about making a conscious decision to feel the hurt, anger, and pain, but still, decide to forgive yourself and others.
Above all, forgiveness is a choice, and it has the power to transform.
The process of letting go can be extremely indicative of future successes and happiness. This doesn’t mean that forgiveness is a simple one-step process, but rather a life-long project that is rooted in love, the love of self, others, and the world.
Here are 3 supportive tips to assist on the journey to forgiveness:
1. Be willing.
Start by asking yourself, do I want to forgive?
Am I willing to forgive?
This is important because forgiveness reflects a conscious choice to let go of a grievance held against another person, place, or situation.
When we are willing to forgive and make that decision, it also means we are willing to let go of feelings of bitterness, resentment, and vengeance. This willingness to embrace healthy relationships and a positive mindset usually leads to favorable effects that ripple out throughout our lives.
Bringing an openly amendable mindset to any negative situation is the first step on the path of finding forgiveness and freedom, both internally and externally.
2. Learn to surrender.
This means different things to each of us, but in this instance, the concept of surrendering is to make a clear choice to accept what is outside of your control.
And it is from this clear choice that we surrender and let go of feeling anger, fear, or shame. Be compassionate with yourself because to surrender and to go deep within our suffering takes courage, strength, and resiliency.
3. Employ Empathy
Another way to increase your power to forgive is through the practice of empathy.
Expand your perspective by looking at the situation from another vantage point.
Ask yourself, Why would this person behave like this?
Would I act similarly if placed in the same situation?
What am I gaining by holding on to this injustice?
Would my life improve if I forgave myself and others?
Think deeply about what forgiveness could do for your life and keep in mind that the practice of forgiveness is quite often an indirect, non-linear, non-cyclical process.
Forgiveness closes the door on past hurts. We may always remember what happened but are no longer held captive by what we cannot control. Honor yourself by letting forgiveness permeate your life.
We are all worthy of forgiveness. The unraveling of emotions, takes time, patience, and above all else self-compassion.
Be gentle with yourself.